LOVING YOURSELF IS NOT A CRIME

People always throw mixed signals at you, of how you should act, who you should be. One minute you're told to love yourself, the next minute you're self obsessed. You're told to be confident in the skin you're in, but if you show to much, you're asking for it, you're a slut, you're disgusting. So what do people really mean when they says these things? Love yourself, but not too much? Be confident in your body, but don't you dare let me see a bit of cleavage or have your skirt any higher than three quarters down your thigh? It's so confusing, and I think we've all in some point in our lives thought the same things, but we need to break through societies boundaries.

There are things about me that I could love about myself, but I cant, because society says so. For example, I cant love my bum, its not big, round and plump. No rapper would sing about a small booty that they want to tap do they? No. I see pictures all over social media, adoring and worshiping big butts, but mocking, laughing and shaming smaller ones. Some people simply cant look like Nicki Minaj or Kim Kardahian, (or have enough money to afford it) no matter how many squats they try! Trust me, I've tried. Booty still tiny, but all booties are beautiful.

Another things that drives me mental is people judging my legs. One minute thigh gaps are hot, the next they're disgusting. The problem is, I cant help having a thigh gap. It's just my natural physique, not because my legs are very slim and toned (I wish), but because my hips are so wide; it's just the way I am. Despite this, every time I go on Facebook all I see is pictures of "thigh gap vs no thigh gap", "no ass vs big ass", "curvy vs fat"etc. So as I scroll through social media I am taught to hate my body, along with everyone else, when in fact my body is beautiful, and so is yours.


Why is it okay to body shame like this? What do people want from us? I want you to be curvaceous but I don't want you to be fat. I don't want you to wear makeup but you look ugly without it. Let's crumple up those negative statements and throw it in the trash because I cant stand this BS anymore. There are loads more things that I can list about  myself that I don't like, but this isn't a self hate session. This isn't a lets dwell in my own self pity session. This is an I am beautiful, you are beautiful, WE are beautiful session.

I LOVE MYSELF, OKAY?
I have really nice eyes, they're like a gingery brown and look nice when the sun shines in them.
Hey, I may have really dry and sensitive skin that flares up in the cold, but at least I don't get spots easily.
Oh, and I have a fast metabolism. Nice!
You know what, my nose isn't too bad at all.
Also, btw, I have moles up and down my arms and legs.  And I like them, and I don't care if you find them ugly.

It's okay to love yourself! You know what, no, it's not okay; ITS BLOODY FANTASTIC! Don't be afraid to love yourself, your body shape, your general appearance, because all the negatives is utter crap and shouldn't be put on a pedestal. You are made for great things.

I love you all okay? We will stick together. If you want to talk you can tweet me @tstainedlauren.
I want everyone one who reads this to comment 5 things you love about yourself, to show a big eff you to the haters.

Much love,